How To Fill Out An NCAA Tournament Bracket

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Filling out an NCAA Tournament bracket and entering half a dozen pools is practically an American tradition. But filling out a bracket is also a daunting task. Some fans religiously pore over every word Joe Lunardi utters, track quadrant one wins, and keep tabs on conference tournament play. And after all that, we usually get dusted by someone who made every pick based on mascot ferocity or head coach wife hotness. You have to choose …

Goldberg Jones Bracket Challenge

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It’s the most wonderful time of the year. No, we’re not talking about Christmas or New Year’s. We’re talking about March Madness. Once again, the NCAA Men’s Basketball Tournament is HERE! And once again, Goldberg Jones is running our annual March Madness Bracket Challenge. This year, the champ walks away with a $250 Amazon gift card! Want to get in on the March Madness action? Follow THIS LINK, fill out a bracket, and, since you’ve …

5 Ways to Move on After Divorce

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People move on after divorce in all kinds of ways. Ending a marriage is a big deal and a major milestone. It’s a time to examine what you have and where you are. Perhaps even more important, it’s a time to look at what you want and where you want to go. Some people throw parties when they sign their divorce papers. Others plan epic trips to places they’ve always wanted to go. Still more …

Divorce Capital Of Oregon

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Oregon has multiple capitals. Salem, of course, is the actual state capital, but we’re talking about a different, less official type. For example, Roseburg is the “Timber Capital of the Nation” and Cottage Grove is the “Covered Bridge Capital of Oregon.” If you’ve driven along I-5, you’ve probably seen the billboard proclaiming Linn County the “Grass Seed Capital of the World.” Travel Portland recently declared the city the “Beer Capital of the World.” Bold claims …

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Prenuptial Agreements: Not Just For The Rich

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We see it all the time on the news and the covers of the trashy gossip magazines we pretend we don’t read waiting in line at the grocery store. Some celebrity power couple is finally tying the knot! It’s about time. But don’t worry, they’re being smart and have an elaborate prenuptial agreement in place to protect themselves. We were all worried there for a second. Beyonce and Jay-Z have an agreement that details custody, …

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Is January Really Divorce Month?

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Fair or not, sometimes nicknames stick and are hard to shake. A pesky nickname can follow you around for years. How many of you have a friend who will forever be “Tiny” or “Lefty” or “Gonzo”? This doesn’t just happen to people, either. To some, the month of January, all 31 days, has become known as “Divorce Month.” The idea is that more couples pursue divorce in the days that immediately follow the New Year. …

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Does Oregon Have Common-Law Marriage?

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A lot goes into a relationship between two people. Navigating interpersonal affairs often resembles a high-wire act. At a basic level, however, marriage is relatively simple. You either are or you aren’t, right? You may try to block it out, but no one forgets their wedding day. But what if you don’t really have a wedding? What if you didn’t really get married? People toss the term common-law marriage around quite a bit. It happens …

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Surviving Thanksgiving For Divorced Dads

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Thanksgiving is upon us. Though it’s traditionally full of family, friends, and other loved ones, this time of year is often tough for newly divorced dads. You may feel alone, especially if you don’t have your kids for the holiday. But there are ways to cope and survive what can be a difficult time. Most custody arrangements split major holidays between the parents. Part of establishing the parenting plan during divorce usually involves hashing this …

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What State Has The Highest Divorce Rate?

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Many factors contribute to the end of a marriage. Age, job, income, education, children, family history, and more. Just about any element you care to look at can be shown to impact divorce statistically. This includes where you live. Laws governing divorce vary a great deal from one state to the next, but a new report examines which state has the highest divorce rate. Looking at the most current data from the U.S. Census Bureau’s …

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Health Issues Men Face In Divorce

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Divorce represents a titanic life change. In short order, almost every aspect of your life undergoes a radical overhaul. The process comes with all manner of issues to deal with, from the nitty-gritty nuts and bolts of dissolving your marriage to financial worries and emotional distress. Something men often tend to overlook in this process, but that has a huge overall impact, are health issues that arise when ending a marriage. Saying goodnight to a …

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Is Divorce Genetic?

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Couples divorce for an endless number of reasons. People cheat, people lie, people change over time. The reasons are as different and wide-reaching as the reasons people fall in love and get married in the first place. But are certain people biologically predisposed to divorce? Is divorce genetic? Do parents hand divorce down from one generation to the next? That may sound crazy, but one recent study suggests genetic makeup plays a much larger role …

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Protect Your Business During Divorce

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Almost all of you have jobs. Some of you own your own businesses. Whatever the profession, you pour your heart and soul and hard work into these ventures. They not only represent your passions and drives, they’re also practical concerns. After all, that’s how you make money to live and support your family. Ending a marriage is complicated enough in the most straightforward situations, but when you have to deal with a business during divorce, …

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How To Ask For A Divorce

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Marriage isn’t always sunshine and puppy dogs. It takes a lot of work, time, effort, and often struggle. And still, it doesn’t always work out. Try with all your might, sometimes you just can’t make a marriage work. But when it’s time to pull the plug, you face one massive obstacle: how do you ask for a divorce? This is an uncomfortable conversation, but an important first step. In reality, asking for divorce represents a …

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How Political Differences Are Causing Divorce

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The old maxim goes: never talk politics or religion in polite company. It’s taken numerous forms over the years, but that’s the general gist. And it’s solid advice. People feel passionate about these topics and conversations often become heated. Friendships have ended for less. But in increasingly divided times, it’s important to think about how politics and divorce intersect. It’s one thing if friends or coworkers have drastically different political beliefs. This can lead to …

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What Kids Can Learn From Fantasy Football

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It’s the most wonderful time of the year. No, we don’t mean Christmas, Thanksgiving, or St. Patrick’s Day. No, we’re talking about football. The NFL season is right around the corner, and with it comes fantasy football. We’re all neck deep in statistics and metrics, reading articles, and keeping up to date on injuries as we prepare for our drafts. Most of us probably think of fantasy football as an excuse to watch every game, …

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My Spouse Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Next?

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Unfortunately, it happens, but love doesn’t always last. When you got married, you probably meant every word of “’til death do us part.” However, it doesn’t always work out like that. People grow apart for countless reasons. But when your spouse says she doesn’t love you anymore, what do you next? That’s a difficult thing to hear. It comes with all manner of psychological and emotional ramifications. That, however, is not our area of expertise. What …

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Do I Need A Divorce Lawyer If My Spouse Has One?

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One of the biggest questions you’ll ask yourself while ending a marriage is whether or not you need a divorce lawyer. No two divorces are ever the same, so there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. It all depends on the specific circumstances of your case. But what if your spouse hires one? In that case, should you hire a divorce lawyer too? The short answer is yes. If your spouse hires a divorce lawyer, it’s in your …

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Hurry Up Or Wait: Should You File For Divorce First?

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People often look for any advantage they can find when it comes to divorce. For a process known to be contentious and full of conflict, this makes sense. In some cases, ending a marriage resembles open warfare. Many maneuvers and strategies can do provide an edge. One question that frequently comes up is whether or not to file for divorce first. Many people believe that if you file for divorce first, it gives you an …

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5 Common Ways People Damage Their Own Divorce Cases

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Over the course of the process, divorce tends to get messy and complicated. In straightforward, low-conflict cases, things may progress smoothly. But with forms to fill out, appointments to appear at, and many other moving parts, it doesn’t take much for problems to arise. And that doesn’t even take flaring emotions into account. It’s important to pay attention to the details and the small stuff so you don’t get tripped up. With all that can …

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Graduation Season: Dos And Don’ts For Divorced Parents

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As the school year winds down, graduation takes center stage for many families. Finishing high school represents a significant milestone. It often signifies the end of one chapter in a young person’s life and the beginning of the next. For this, among other reasons, it’s important to celebrate. But like many other situations, graduation season gets tough when it involves divorced parents. When parents aren’t together, graduation often turns into a minefield. Hopefully, both parties …

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Should I Hire A Divorce Lawyer?

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These days, it’s easier than ever to get divorced. You can find the forms online, fill them out yourself, and if you follow the proper procedure, end your marriage. This do-it-yourself approach works like gangbusters in some situations, but not for others. At some point in the process, you need to ask yourself if you should hire a divorce lawyer. You have a lot of choices to make during this time, and deciding whether or …

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8 Common Mistakes Men Make In Divorce

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Divorce is often a long, complicated process. Between warring spouses, opposing counsel, judges, negotiations, and a nearly endless parade of paperwork, there are a lot of moving parts to contend with. With so much to juggle, it’s easy to get tripped up. Keeping that in mind, here are eight common mistakes men make in divorce. Some are practical in nature. Others involve simple things like self-care that too often get missed along the way. 1. …

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Breaking Down Divorce By Generation

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The common refrain is that the divorce rate in the United States hovers around the 50% mark. That’s an oversimplification of a much more complex idea. (You can read more about it HERE if you’re so inclined.) In reality, the divorce rate is lower than it’s been in years and has been on a steady if gradual decline. An interesting exercise is to look at the divorce by generation and investigate the changing views. There …

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Whether To Sell Your Home During Divorce: 5 Questions To Answer

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For most of us, a house is the biggest purchase we’ll ever make. It’s a huge commitment in money, time, resources, emotions, and more. Because it’s the most valuable thing we own, it often becomes a big issue in ending a marriage. The question often comes up of whether or not to sell your home during divorce.  This situation generally plays out in one of three ways. First, one party buys out the other and keeps …

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Dating During Divorce: Does It Hurt Your Case?

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Divorce signals the end of a relationship. Whatever the reasons, it just didn’t work out, and divorce makes that final and official. For all intents and purposes, your marriage may have been over for a long time and the divorce process often feels like a waiting period. By this point, many people want to get out there and explore new romantic possibilities. But the question arises: does dating during divorce hurt your case? Once you …

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Long-Term Marriages And Divorce: What To Know

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Over the course of a marriage, two lives become intertwined. The longer the marriage, the more interwoven they become. When it comes to divorce, shorter marriages are understandably usually much more straightforward. In the case of ending long-term marriages, however, it’s much more complex as there’s often a great deal to unravel. People end long-term marriages for a variety of reasons. Gray divorce, divorce over the age of 50, has been on the rise over …

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Is Summary Dissolution Your Quick Divorce Answer?

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Divorce is a long, drawn out process. It involves countless court dates, meetings with lawyers, and an endless back and forth as the two spouses bicker over every last detail. At least that’s what many people expect. But that’s not always how it goes. In certain situations, summary dissolution may be a quick and easy way to end a marriage. Though some couples find it useful, in order to qualify for summary dissolution in Oregon, …

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Jurisdiction: How Where You File For Divorce Impacts Your Case

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Making the choice to file for divorce is one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make. It’s up there with getting married in the first place, having kids, and buying a house in the life changing department. Once you head down that path, you also have a ton of subsequent important decisions to make. This includes where you file for divorce. As it turns out, jurisdiction has a huge impact on what follows. Filling out all …

Pro Se Divorce: When Is DIY The Best Choice?

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With the spread of online guides and resources, do-it-yourself divorce has never been more accessible. From a legal perspective, the term for representing yourself is pro se. It comes from Latin and means “for oneself.” While not exclusive to divorce, a pro se approach is common in the dissolution of marriage. There are, however, many factors to consider. When is DIY divorce your best option? When is it not? What are some common risks and …

10 Steps To Creating A Divorce Strategy

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Divorce often looms on the horizon for quite some time before a couple finally pulls the trigger. In many cases, by the time they file the documents, people are emotionally prepared for the process. But being emotionally prepared and being ready in a practical sense are two different things. Ending a marriage is a tricky proposition, and creating a divorce strategy ahead of time often helps people through the process. There are a number of …

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How Substance Abuse Impacts Divorce

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Countless factors contribute to the end of a marriage. Every situation unfolds differently, but one element that too often plays into divorce is substance abuse. Often hugely detrimental to relationships, the question remains of how substance abuse impacts divorce. Addiction to alcohol, prescription drugs, illegal drugs, and more affects millions of people and often has a catastrophic effect on families. Beyond personal problems, substance abuse impacts divorce and the divorce process in a number of …

Divorce Or Separation? Make The Right Choice

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Ending a marriage is a huge decision. It’s a choice that impacts every facet of your life. Divorce is the most obvious option when a relationship is over, but in some cases, it’s not the best one. There are situations where staying married, but separating, may work. It begs the question whether divorce or separation is right for you? While it may seem like a strange choice, in some cases, legal separation has definite benefits. …

Divorce Statistics: Interesting & Surprising

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Looking at divorce statistics often gets overwhelming. It’s harrowing to hear that oft-repeated statement that 50% of marriages end in divorce. Sometimes it’s tough to interpret the raw numbers and determine what they really mean. With that in mind, let’s take a look at some interesting, useful, or just downright surprising divorce statistics and see if we can provide any context. The Basic Divorce Statistics The median ages for first marriages in the United States …

How To File For Divorce In Oregon

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Filing for divorce sounds like a harrowing, dramatic undertaking. Most people think of ending a marriage as a long, drawn-out process full of courtroom appearances and custody battles. Though it certainly can resemble a movie or TV show, that isn’t always the case. On a basic level, however, how to file for divorce in Oregon isn’t nearly as complicated as many assume. There’s a definite process to follow, but in reality, the steps to divorce …

Prepare For Your Initial Divorce Consultation

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Getting divorced is a daunting task and an intimidating proposition. In many, if not most cases, hiring an experienced attorney to help you through the process is a sound strategy. That in itself can be an overwhelming experience. Finding the right lawyer—more specifically, the right lawyer for you and your case—is tough on its own. And then you have to meet with your attorney. Fortunately, there are ways to prepare for your initial consultation. Remember …

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10 Truly Scary Divorce Facts

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Divorce is usually a time of great upheaval. It may absolutely be the right decision, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. In a relatively short span, your entire life changes, and it can be a frightening, uncertain experience. There’s a great deal to consider about marriage and divorce. And not to add fuel to the fire, but here are some scary divorce facts to be aware of. Some are interesting, others may be useful to …

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How To Divorce When You Can’t Find Your Spouse

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All divorces are different. While they can progress in smooth, amicable fashion, they also tend to devolve into contentious, bitter courtroom slugfests. How it goes depends entirely on the specifics of your marriage and relationship. All of this, however, presumes that you can find your spouse in the first place. But what if you can’t? Can you get a divorce if you can’t find your spouse? The short answer is: yes, you can still get …

Is Oregon A Community Property State?

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The division of property in a divorce has a substantial impact on your financial situation moving forward. Regulations vary a great deal from one state to the next, so where you live also influences this step. Our West Coast neighbors, Washington and California, both use the community property model. As a result, the question often arises, is Oregon a community property state? The short, quick answer is no, Oregon is not a community property state. …

How Abandonment Impacts Divorce

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People divorce for all kinds of reasons and each case has its own individual story to tell. Sometimes it takes the form of a gradual breakdown, spouses often separate ahead of time, and occasionally one party simply up and leaves. This begs the question: How does abandonment impact divorce? What Constitutes Abandonment? While the idea of abandonment seems obvious at first glance, from a legal perspective, it isn’t so cut and dried. Most people probably …

5 Common Ways To Celebrate Divorce

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People love to celebrate. We’ll take any excuse to throw a party, whether it’s a holiday, a promotion at work, or the Trailblazers making a playoff run. While we usually think of ending a marriage as a serious, somber affair, that’s not always the case. Increasingly, many people take the occasion as an excuse to celebrate divorce. It’s difficult to end a marriage, and it usually alters your life in almost every way. Even when …

5 Ways Divorce Impacts Social Security

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Over the course of a marriage, two lives become inexorably entwined, and divorce is the process of untangling them. A relatively straightforward feat in shorter unions, the longer you and your spouse stay together, the messier things get. For marriages over ten years, one thing to be aware of is how divorce impacts Social Security. You may be eligible to receive benefits based on your former spouse’s employment history. Here’s what you need to know. …

Writ Of Assistance, Divorce, And Child Custody

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Divorce and child custody cases are often intense and antagonistic undertakings. And just because a judge hands down an order, doesn’t mean it will always be followed. Oregon law includes a number of writs, court orders that either require an action to be taken or give authority and power to perform a specific act. When it comes to divorce and child custody, a writ of assistance can come into play. On a basic level, a …

Why The 50% Divorce Rate Is A Lie

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One statistic tossed around frequently is that 50% of all marriages end in divorce. The number varies a bit, but the gist is that roughly half of weddings have a corresponding divorce waiting. As ubiquitous as this figure is, many just accept it as fact. The truth, however, is that the 50% divorce rate totally false. How It Began Despite the fact that this wisdom has held, experts have debunked this figure multiple times over …

Divorce Forms: What To Know Before Filing

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Filing for divorce can be a long, intricate process. There are hearings, mediation, meetings with attorneys, arbitration, custody disputes, division of property, and more. And then there are the divorce forms to contend with. We’re talking forms on top of forms. All of this can be overwhelming. On a basic level, however, filing for divorce in Oregon doesn’t need to be scary or as complex as it seems. It is a process to be sure, …

8 Ways To Prepare For Divorce

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Attorneys are subject to a variety of rules, regulations, and stipulations when it comes to offering divorce and legal advice. Without an actual consultation, we can’t offer any concrete divorce legal advice. Beyond that, every situation is different. No single recommendation will fit every case. Without examining the specifics, it’s impossible to suggest how to proceed. However, if you’re heading towards divorce, there are steps you can take ahead of time to streamline the process …

Well-Intentioned Advice That Can Harm Your Divorce

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Divorce is a huge deal. It makes sense that, once you come to this decision, you’ll confide in people close to you. It also makes sense that these people who care about you and your well-being will want to help in any way they can. Lots of people are quick to offer advice. While that’s all well and good, it may not always be practical or applicable. In some instances, it can even undermine your …

Property Or Family Member? Pet Custody And Divorce

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Many of us who own pets know that they are much more than just property. They may be valued members of our family and in some cases, even surrogate children. The law, however,  often views them as possessions and treated as such. That is changing, however. A recent case the Oregon Supreme Court ruled on may impact how the law regards our animal companions moving forward, which could bleed over into divorce and pet custody …

It’s Possible To Crowdfund Anything, Even Your Divorce

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Divorce is usually a private matter. Sure, your friends and family know what you’re going through, but most people don’t broadcast that news to the general public. As social media has become a ubiquitous part of modern life, that has changed—it’s remarkable what some people choose to share online. Another recent social innovation is exerting an influence on the way people approach the divorce process, and you can now crowdfund the end of your marriage. …

5 Financial Mistakes That May Impact Your Divorce Settlement

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Divorce can have a massive impact on your life in many ways. In a relatively short span, your living situation, relationship status, and how much time you get to spend with your children may all undergo a titanic shift. One of the biggest consequences can be the financial impact of dissolving your marriage. A significant part of the process is the division of property, where the two sides split up the shared assets and debts …

Your Cheating Heart: What Adultery Means For Your Divorce

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Many factors play a role in causing a divorce. Adultery can be a big one. Infidelity often has a destructive, devastating impact on a marriage. It’s a huge breach of trust, and in many cases, perhaps even most, if one spouse is caught having an affair, it leads to the end of a union. Depending on where you live, cheating can also have an impact on your divorce settlement. In certain states, adulterers can’t receive …

How Is Property Divided In Divorce?

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Where you live can have a huge impact on your divorce as laws and regulations differ from state to state. For instance, Oregon has its own set of standards when it comes to property division that are different than its West Coast partners Washington and California. While those two are community property states, Oregon practices equitable distribution. In the case of community property states, debts and assets are viewed, as the title implies, as belonging to …

4 Big Issues Men Face In Divorce

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Divorce is not easy for anyone. It may be the right choice, it may be what needs to happen, but that doesn’t make it simple or comfortable. Men and women face a number of different issues during the dissolution of a marriage, from the tangible, concrete, down and dirty details—things that can be measured and accounted for, like money and property—to those that are much less quantifiable, like the emotional stress and pain of separation. …

The Cost Of Divorce: What You Should Know

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This may come as a shocking revelation, but divorce cost can add up quickly. There are charges and fees along every step of the way, from filing the initial paperwork and hiring an attorney to relevant court costs and a variety of expenditures that continue even after the process is complete. The big question is: how much does it cost to get a divorce in Oregon? The short answer is that it may cost quite a …

Divorce Statistics in Oregon and the Rest of the US

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Here are some interesting divorce statistics; Oregon has the fourth highest divorce rate in the nation at 12.8% while Oklahoma is just slightly ahead with 12.9%. Maine has 13.6% and Nevada comes in at number one with 14.2%. Not exactly a statistic to be proud of, especially if you’re known as the quickie-wedding capital of the United States like Nevada is. In 2008, the US Census bureau released these statistics based upon the percentage of …

What Makes a Good Divorce Lawyer?

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What makes an attorney a “good divorce lawyer”? Think about all the lawyers you’ve seen on TV or in movies. Of course, there’s Atticus Finch from “To Kill a Mockingbird”. Maybe your parents or grandparents liked to watch “Matlock”, “Perry Mason” or enjoyed Paul Newman in “The Verdict” and Jimmy Stewart in “Anatomy of a Murder”. Did you grow up watching “Law and Order”, “Boston Legal” or “The Practice”? Jack McCoy and Denny Crane were …

Community Property vs. Equitable Distribution

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So you’ve reached the point in your relationship where the misery of going through with a divorce is far outweighed by the misery of staying in the marriage. Let’s not gloss over the significance of this realization. Everyone who’s been through it including the lawyers who have represented them will tell you that it’s like pulling off a Band Aid… a Band Aid that’s attached with Super Glue and staples to an extremely sensitive part …

Divorce Health Insurance

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How many of you reading this are trained project managers? For those of you that are, you know that when planning a project, a crucial step is to identify all contingencies and factors that could impact a successful outcome/smooth transition or implementation. It’s an exhaustive process requiring extreme focus and high attention to detail which is why those who are skilled in the art of project management usually command a lucrative salary and are in …

Does Where You File for Divorce Matter?

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There are so many things to think about when making the tough decision to call it quits with your marriage. A telling statement about the emotions and strain that accompany a divorce is that many people who have gotten out of marriages that would be considered bad by anyone’s estimation will still say that it is the hardest thing they have ever done. Studies have shown that clarity of thought is difficult to achieve during …

Divorce Selfies

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The “selfie” has become ubiquitous part of pop culture. It has become so pervasive that it has spawned a category of accessories (the selfie-stick) and sub-genres including “the gym selfie”, “the car selfie”, and now  “divorce selfies”.  There has been speculation that the rise of the selfie is a by-product of shifting values and cultural shift towards individualism. The emergence of the “divorce selfie” may also be a reflection of shifting perceptions of divorce. The …

Derek Fisher Divorce

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  According to online reports, Knick’s coach Derek Fisher has filed for divorce from his wife of ten years. While we do not have any involvement in this case, it has raised some interesting questions regarding the warning signs that may indicate a marriage is headed for dissolution. TMZ Sports is reporting, “Derek Fisher’s wife says she was completely “blindsided” when the NBA legend served her with divorce papers last month … and was even …

Spousal Support: What is Galimony?

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Galimony is a non-legal term for spousal support that is paid by the wife to the husband. A quick search of Urban Dictionary also sites galimony as the alimony paid when a same-sex couple divorces. Galimony is a riff off the term alimony, which has been replaced in the legal lexicon with “spousal support”.  In a divorce, it is imperative to understand when, and how, spousal support is applied. Spousal support is a tool used …

After the Divorce: Updating Important Documents

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Changing Information on Important Documents after a Divorce If there is anything that is strongly advised by a lawyer; it is to update any shared important documents between you and your ex-spouse. It is common to get caught up in the emotional stress that comes with divorce, but there are important issues that need to be addressed immediately. Failing to make changes to your will, life insurance, etc. might just leave your ex inheriting your …

How are Assets Divided in Divorce?

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Reaching the end of a divorce can be a drawn-out process with issues that seem impossible to resolve. The distribution of assets, custody (if there are children), and support, are three of the primary concerns couples face. “What is going to happen to the house? Who gets it? What about the furniture? The car? The remaining debts?”…etc.—are all questions that seem daunting to rectify. However, Oregon is an equitable distribution state and has established guidelines …

Colin On Air: Legalization of Marijuana and Post-nuptial Agreements

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Colin recently stopped by 750 The Game to discuss how legalizing marijuana might affect custody and divorce, and post-nuptial agreements. The conversation about the legalization of marijuana was spawned from a recent article in the Willamette Weekly about the upcoming vote for legalizing pot. According to the article, “A recent poll shows eight of 10 Oregonians believe it’s a matter of when, not if, voters erase laws against recreational use of marijuana.” The conversation regarding …

How Much Does an Oregon Divorce Cost?

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The cost of divorce in Oregon is affected by a number of factors and can vary greatly depending on the unique facts of your situation.  There are 3 major factors that will impact the final expense of your divorce: conflict, compromise, and counsel. Conflict There is a positive correlation between the amount of conflict in a divorce and the cost— the greater the conflict, the more expensive the divorce. High conflict divorces present a greater …

Divorce and Debt in Oregon

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Finances are often at the forefront when a couple has made the decision to divorce. Who will get what and how those decisions are made can create a lot of anxiety. Additionally, some couples are surprised to find out that debts are also divided in the divorce process. Credit cards, home loans, auto financing and other debts will distributed between both parties. Because Oregon is an equitable distribution state there are some subtleties in how …

Divorce & Twitter — Colin Amos On-Air

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Colin stopped by Flight 750 to answer questions about divorce and custody, and weigh in on some family law issues that have been in the news. The first question Colin tackled came from an involved dad whose children were requesting to live with him. The father has been divorced for more than 7 years, and his kids, 12 and 15, want to change their living arrangements so they can reside with their father. In answering …

Restraining Orders: What is a Civil Standby?

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A civil standby is an opportunity for those restricted by a restraining order to gather essential personal effects without violating the restraining order. Regardless if you are the petitioner of the restraining order or the respondent, understanding how a civil standby works and its limitations is important. In Oregon, a civil standby is requested through your local police department. Officers will be dispatched to meet the person who is restricted by the restraining order  (the …

Do I Need to Hire an Oregon Divorce Lawyer?

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“Do I have to hire an Oregon Divorce Lawyer?” is a common question for men facing divorce. The answer is no. Having a divorce lawyer is not required to get divorce. You can represent yourself—but like many things, just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. What is the benefit of having a divorce attorney? The end of a marriage is an emotional and stressful time and it is important to keep in mind that …

What is a Divorce Deposition?

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The term “divorce deposition” sounds much more ominous than it really is. Simply stated, it is a tool used by attorneys to obtain information from both parties during a divorce. The deposition is a formal interview conducted by court personnel like an attorney or a paralegal. Depositions are not unique to family law, and while you may hear the term “divorce deposition”, that simply refers to a deposition that is being used in a divorce …

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5 Ways to Save Money on Your Divorce

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Educate Yourself  Educating yourself on your rights and what to expect from the divorce process can help you save money. The more you know about the process the easier it will be to work with your attorney or mediator to reach a divorce agreement. Understanding the process will allow you to do some of the legwork that you might otherwise pay your attorney to do.  Taking a hands-on-approach that is coordinated with your divorce lawyer …

Will My Marriage End In Divorce?

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When a marriage hits a rough patch, it is common for men to wonder, “Will my marriage end in divorce?” There is a big difference between a rough patch and a marriage that has been derailed and is headed for divorce. Being able to distinguish between temporary challenges that happen in every relationship and irreconcilable differences is important. Not all marriages that have hit hard times are doomed for divorce. When you are mired in …

Divorce Communication

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When a relationship is coming to an end, it can be easy for couples to fall into a pattern of high conflict communication. Hurt feelings, anger, and all the other emotions that come with the territory can leave people scrambling to communicate effectively—but effective divorce communication can be essential for protecting your rights and your assets (and save you money). Usually couples will fall into one of two categories when it comes to divorce communication—they …

Business Owners Face Unique Challenges in Divorce

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Media mogul and business tycoon Rupert Murdock is back in the news—this time for his divorce from his third wife, Wendi Deng. With speculations running rampant over prenuptial agreements and divorce settlements, Murdock’s divorce serves as a reminder to all entrepreneurs that a deteriorating relationship can impact your business. After Murdock’s last divorce and a settlement that is reported to have exceeded 1 billion dollars, it is likely that a prenup was signed prior his …

How to Get Divorced in Oregon

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  While there aren’t a lot of steps to getting divorced, there are a lot of details. Each step of the process comes with its own set of challenges and potential bottlenecks that can slow down your divorce. This post will give you a general idea of what to expect through the different steps and help you understand what to anticipate during your divorce. 1. Get answers The first step in getting a divorce should …

Divorce for Men Radio—Episode 6: Divorce and Reconciliation

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Earlier this year Kobe Bryant and his wife Vanessa announced that they were reconciling. Bryant’s wife Vanessa filed for divorce in 2011 citing irreconcilable differences after more than a decade of marriage, but the couple had a change of heart and decided to call off the divorce. Managing partner Rick Jones and managing attorney Colin Amos sat down with Divorce for Men Radio to discuss divorce and reconciliation.During the conversation Rick posed the question “what …

Colin Talks Custody, Divorce, and…Kim Kardashian? (Video)

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Colin stopped by 750AM The Game to help listeners with custody, divorce and family law questions on air. The first question posed to Colin “I wanted to get through the holidays before I get a divorce. I am finally ready, I have been married 14 years, have a 12 and a 9 year old, and my wife doesn’t work. We haven’t been getting along, but she doesn’t want a divorce. Can I still pursue a divorce even …

9 Celebrity Divorces 2012

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Divorces 2012 As the clock ticks down the last few hours of 2012, take a look back on the 9 of the most publicized divorces of the year. Some have been in the works for a while and others came as a surprise —but for all the gents on our list, 2013 will be full of new beginnings and fresh starts. 9. Danny DeVito Funny man Danny DeVito and longtime wife Rhea Perlman announced their …

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Reasons for Divorce

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7 year itch? 3 year glitch? When do relationships hit the rocks? Danica Patrick announced in November she will be divorcing after 7 years of marriage and headlines have been screaming about the 7 year itch —also known as a period of marital boredom that is accompanied by an increased likelihood for infidelity. The term was made famous by the 1955 film “The Seven Year Itch” starring Marilyn Monroe. Digging into the genesis of the …

U.S. Divorce Statistics

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Divorce statistics can be staggering. The current divorce rate in the United States has been reported at hovering around fifty percent for the past few decades. With a little investigating into the data fueling these numbers, some interesting insights emerge. An article published on in May of 2012, David Milstead reports that a survey conducted by the U.S. Census Bureau that divided men into categories of  “never married”, “ever married”, “ever widowed”, or “ever …

How to ask for divorce

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Ask for divorce —a guide for men Like many life decisions, the decision to dissolve your marriage should not be entered into lightly. Dissolving the marital bond will have far reaching emotional and financial consequences which will be amplified if children are involved.  If you are just begging to consider if you should ask for divorce, working with a therapist or marriage counselor can provide you guidance through your current challenges and help you decide the …

How to Talk to People

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How to start a conversation. If you are recently divorced or just starting the divorce process, making small talk with extended family members, acquaintances, and strangers can be difficult —it’s common for men to wonder how to talk to people. We recently came across an article on one of our favorite websites, The Art of Manliness, that does an exceptional job outlining the often awkward endeavor of small talk. For men redefining themselves after divorce, …

4 Divorce Tips from Grand Theft Auto

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4 things Grand Theft Auto can teach you about divorce With the release of Grand Theft Auto 5 looming on the horizon, it seems prudent to take a retrospective on the divorce tips learned from Grand Theft Auto. 1.     When your car is engulfed in flames, get out. At first glance this seems like a no brainer. If the car is in flames and there is no way that the fire can be extinguished —get …

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Divorce and Communication

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Tips for family communication Lack of communication is at the top of the causes-of-divorce list and unfortunately communication challenges often persist even after a marriage has dissolved. This might not pose a problem if you and your ex cut ties and avoid all contact. But if you have children with your ex, severing contact is usually not an option. Although eliminating interaction with your kids’ mother isn’t an option, there are some tactics you can …

Divorce nightmare: my ex-wife was a lawyer

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A recent blog post, by Staci Zaretsky on Above the Law, highlighted the story of one man burned by his ex-wife’s legal background. The story paints a tale of a couple, Andrea Shomer and Andrew Left, who married in 2001 and then later divorced to the tune of almost $50,000 a month in support payments. After becoming pregnant, Shomer left her position as an attorney at ABC Entertainment and Touchstone Television to stay at home …


Divorce and Depression : the impact on men

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Were you expecting to feel a sense of relief once your divorce was finalized? Perhaps you did, but now that initial relief has faded and you are feeling a little off —not your usual self. Divorce can be one of the most stressful life events a man can endure. It is not uncommon for men to experience post divorce depression. In fact, a Canadian study revealed that while both genders are at risk for post divorce …

No Substitute for Dad

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The importance of fathers is frequently overlooked and underappreciated. A study was recently released that validates the impact a father has on his child’s development and the role dads play in cultivating the well being of their kids. The study, conducted by Ronald Rohner of the University of Connecticut, delves into the how the father child relationship is tied to psychological development and contributes to forming the child’s personality. Rohner’s study examined 36 separate studies …

How to file for divorce in Oregon

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Making the decision to file for divorce in Oregon is not an easy choice. You probably have questions about the process and what to expect. We have put together answers to some of the most common questions and included a checklist to help you anticipate what is to come. Oregon does not require a reason for filing for divorce. This “no fault” divorce is referred to as “irreconcilable differences” and simply means that you and …

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Can my ex-girlfriend use my past as an alcoholic against me?

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Colin tackles a number of questions about child custody, divorce, and child support modifications this week on the radio. One Portland husband and father asks if his ex-girlfriend can use his past as an alcoholic against him. The caller asks: “I have a seven year old son with my ex-girlfriend. We have been separated for the last 6 months. I have him every other weekend and times during the week. She consistently jerks me around and …

My wife is having an affair on Facebook. Do I need to hire an attorney? Or, can I do this divorce on my own?

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Colin Amos from Goldberg Jones answers questions from Portland and Clark County about divorce, child custody, and how to pick the right attorney. One father writes in to ask if he really needs an attorney. My wife has been having a Facebook affair. This is not the first time. I am done. We have two kids and I have a small retirement plan. My house is underwater. Obviously, I don’t have much money. Do I …

Is Leaving the House in my Name Sufficient?

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In his most recent radio interview, Colin Amos talked about pre-nups,  Portland Divorce for men, and child custody. He took questions from callers and questions that were submitted to our website. One question he answers asked about separate property and when to get a prenup. The question read: I plan on getting married in a few weeks. I have a house in my name, some investment accounts, and a retirement account. I plan to leave …

A Bad Divorce Story: Deviant Wife or Deviant Husband?

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You think getting a divorce is bad. Imagine getting a divorce at the same time you are being indicted on federal charges. Now imagine that the evidence of your crime was faked and planted on your cell phone by your soon-to-be-ex-wife. This is the situation alleged by the husband (Habibion) in what may be the most tumultuous divorce of all time. Habibion is currently being accused of conspiring to export millions of dollars of electronic …

What Happens to Inheritance in a Divorce?

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Colin Amos, a Portland divorce lawyer and managing attorney of Goldberg Jones, was on the radio before the holiday to talk about a major change in Oregon divorce law. The change will affect how inheritance will be divided during divorce and is effective as of today. Before the change, inheritance or gifts received during the marriage were presumed to be joint property. Therefore, the court often split inheritance between the two parties during the divorce. While the …


Divorce Settlement – When to Fight

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Here in Portland, Divorce Lawyers have a multifaceted job. We are part advocate for the client and part scrivener (a fancy word document writer); but one of our most important jobs is to be a counselor and negotiator. As tempers flair and emotion starts to control your actions in a separation, it is our job to help cool you down and find the easiest, cheapest, and best path for your divorce. I read an interesting article in …

What are Grounds for Divorce in Oregon?

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When you read about recent divorces, you often see that “irreconcilable differences” were the basis for the separation. The reason that you hear “irreconcilable differences” so frequently is that the term comes from the modern “no-fault” divorce code. Before the passage of the no-fault code, a divorce was only allowed when the parties could find a fault in the marriage such as abuse, adultery or infertility. However over the past 50 years, the laws across …